Who Was I Before I Was Everything to Everyone Else? A Journey Back to Self

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I’ve been thinking lately about who I was before I became everything for other people. Before I lost myself to the hustle and bustle, where did I go? I sat down with a notepad and pen and wrote out everything I could remember about the girl I used to be. Daydreaming, creative, enjoying simple pleasures, a wanderer, adventure seeker, a deep thinker, loved immersing myself in books, long talks with friends and loved ones. Before I became a mother, a wife, a social worker, a best friend, a sister, a caretaker, I was just VIV and I loved being that person.

Who was the girl I used to be before life got complicated? I used to dance like nobody was watching. I used to have no filter, say what I wanted, and not worry about the consequences. I was wild, free, and full of life. I used to laugh until it hurt, love hard, and feel deeply. I was a dreamer and a believer in magic. I used to be carefree, spontaneous, and unapologetically myself.

I forgot who I was in the chaos of life and the many roles I took on. I lost myself in the shuffle of it all. I was everyone’s everything, but I was nobody’s everything for me. Life changed me, molded me, and shaped me, but I was still the same girl deep down. I found myself in the quiet moments, the in-betweens, and the spaces where I allowed myself to be.

I am not that girl anymore, or maybe I am and just have been chipped away by life’s trials and tribulations. I used to be so much more than this mundane version of myself I have settled for over the years. But I am becoming again. I am shedding the layers I no longer need and embracing the woman I was always meant to be.

Who was the girl you used to be before life got in the way? What dreams did you have? What goals did you want to achieve? What did you love to do for fun? Who were you in your heart before the world told you who to be?

The girl I used to be is the foundation of who I am today. She is the reminder of the strength, resilience, and spirit I possess. I honor her and all that she has given me by living a life true to myself.

Don’t ever forget who you were and what you wanted. Don’t let life’s chaos and responsibilities take away your essence. You are still that girl at heart, even if you have become someone else along the way.

Remember who you are and always keep that girl in your heart. She is a part of you and always will be.

Love,

Viv

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